What do we do when our children choose to follow a lifestyle
we cannot endorse? What do Christian parents do when their children choose to
follow a homosexual lifestyle, a lifestyle of sin according to the Word of God?
We live in a time when many Christian parents’ hearts are broken and torn
between their love for their gay child and their love for God and His law.
Jesus said, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother…” (Luke 12:51-53)
When our children choose a path different from the way we showed and taught them according to the Word of God, we are in fact divided. This is heart-breaking to any parent. We cannot stand to be alienated or separated from our children. It is an unbearable situation. Yet, to Christian parents, it is also unthinkable to turn your back on God and His laws. Our children on the one side and God on the other – a real dilemma for many.
Often, parents have one of two reactions. Firstly, many parents do cut off their children. They will not speak to them again. They will not welcome them into their homes and they disown them. The pain that this causes both sides is immense. Secondly, parents often choose to change their interpretation of God’s law. They take the stand that the Bible is wrongly interpreted on the subject of homosexuality and that it is actually acceptable to God. By doing this, they don’t have to be divided against their children or against God anymore, they can be united to their child and to God. But God and His Word is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. We cannot change Him or His Word at our whim. His law is eternal.
Then what is the right thing to do? What can a parent do is such a situation? The truth is that once you have trained your children in the way that they should go, it is up to them to make their own decisions. Proverbs 22:6 says that if we have trained them God’s way, when they are old, they will not turn from it. When it thus seems that our children have chosen against God, we pray and we trust as we continue to live a life of truth and worship God.
Furthermore, Galatians 5:22-23 says this: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Even when a child chooses a path against the law of God, let the Christian parent continue to do those things against which there is no law. Do not withhold love, be ever filled with joy and stay in His perfect peace, show patience, kindness and gentleness. Act with self-control and continue and be faithful in doing good also to your child.
As it is your child's choice to obey God's law or not, it is your own choice to continue to live our the life of holiness and love to which you were called or not. A wrong never rights a wrong but we fight evil with good.
My prayer today is for every parent who finds him or herself in this situation, that God will strengthen you and guide you and cover you in His abundant grace on this difficult road.
God bless
Jesus said, “Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother…” (Luke 12:51-53)
When our children choose a path different from the way we showed and taught them according to the Word of God, we are in fact divided. This is heart-breaking to any parent. We cannot stand to be alienated or separated from our children. It is an unbearable situation. Yet, to Christian parents, it is also unthinkable to turn your back on God and His laws. Our children on the one side and God on the other – a real dilemma for many.
Often, parents have one of two reactions. Firstly, many parents do cut off their children. They will not speak to them again. They will not welcome them into their homes and they disown them. The pain that this causes both sides is immense. Secondly, parents often choose to change their interpretation of God’s law. They take the stand that the Bible is wrongly interpreted on the subject of homosexuality and that it is actually acceptable to God. By doing this, they don’t have to be divided against their children or against God anymore, they can be united to their child and to God. But God and His Word is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. We cannot change Him or His Word at our whim. His law is eternal.
Then what is the right thing to do? What can a parent do is such a situation? The truth is that once you have trained your children in the way that they should go, it is up to them to make their own decisions. Proverbs 22:6 says that if we have trained them God’s way, when they are old, they will not turn from it. When it thus seems that our children have chosen against God, we pray and we trust as we continue to live a life of truth and worship God.
Furthermore, Galatians 5:22-23 says this: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” Even when a child chooses a path against the law of God, let the Christian parent continue to do those things against which there is no law. Do not withhold love, be ever filled with joy and stay in His perfect peace, show patience, kindness and gentleness. Act with self-control and continue and be faithful in doing good also to your child.
As it is your child's choice to obey God's law or not, it is your own choice to continue to live our the life of holiness and love to which you were called or not. A wrong never rights a wrong but we fight evil with good.
My prayer today is for every parent who finds him or herself in this situation, that God will strengthen you and guide you and cover you in His abundant grace on this difficult road.
God bless
Lize
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